Every since a report from the New York Times came out October 5th detailing the alleged sexual assaults by Harvey Weinstein, the story keeps getting bigger as more stars have come out with their own testimonials of dealings with the Hollywood movie industry giant. What makes it even more tragic is the strong possibility that Weinstein’s disgusting behavior has been known about for a long time (watch an old Seth MacFarlane joke) in Hollywood without him having met his current consequences, such as the deterioration of his marriage and the need for therapy, decades ago.
In addition to everything in Weinstein’s closet being laid out in the open, now, it has been revealed that this information could have been leaked earlier.
Ronan Farrow, an investigative reporter for NBC, had written a piece in The New Yorker telling the stories of some of Weinstein’s victims. He was also asked by MSNBC host Rachel Maddow about NBC not supporting the piece that he wrote. Plus, journalist Sharon Waxman wrote of how she reported a story in 2004, but the New York Times never ran with it. These are clear symptoms of a much deeper issue: there were “enablers” to Weinstein’s behavior.
The Inconsistency of Hollywood Elite
Another problem is with the lack of consistency in Hollywood about those who are actually guilty of sexual abuse and to those that have had received accusations of alleged sexual misconduct. For example, Kate Winslet is just one of the growing number of stars making statements against Weinstein’s evil deeds. However, this is inconsistent with her answer to a question about working with Woody Allen and Roman Polanski.
Yes, they are allegations that were made about Allen, but Polanski ran from facing punishment from being convicted of unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor. It is public knowledge what Polanski has done and yet, Winslet and many other actors/actresses/Hollywood insiders continued to work with the famous director. This inconsistency in Hollywood matched with the silence of some politicians may give an inkling to why sexual abuse may continue in Hollywood in secret.
The Delicate Persons of Social Media Take Issue with “Father of Daughters” Phrase
Unfortunately, while people were trying to be supportive and encouraging to the ladies who had been through an ordeal with Weinstein, many on social media found another reason to be upset with men who responded in a certain fashion.
Apparently, whenever males used the phrase — ‘as a father of daughters’ or something similar to it, this prompted some to feel as if the statements were cop outs and was the only way for those men to understand what women who have been sexually assaulted or harassed go through. One lady wrote: “Dear Men, Please remove the phrase “as a husband and/or a father of daughters” from your vocabulary. Women exist outside your bubble.” I guess she believes that many men (maybe even all men) need to be reminded that everything, especially women, do not revolve around them.
Another person wrote: “Actors currently drafting your Weinstein statements: Keep in mind that women are not only “wives” and “daughters” but also, in fact, people.” This gentleman must believe that men cannot see their wives and daughters as people. Does he really think that these actors just see the women in their life as ‘things’ to please them or boost their self-esteem?
As actors, James Van Der Beek and Terry Crews, gave their own personal sexual assault stories to show empathy with the victims of Weinstein, other men, who have not been victims, try to show support in other ways. They may not ever know what it is like to feel powerless in the hands of someone abusing them. So, the way they may connect to these ladies (in some very small way) is knowing that these ladies deserved to be respected as they believe in their wives and daughters having value and deserving to be respect. They would not want the ladies in their life to ever experience what an Ashley Judd or a Rose McGowan went through.
In conclusion, it is because men value the women and girls in their lives as people (and people with their own autonomy) that they refer to them in situations like this one. They never want them to ever be devalued in such an evil and despicable way. Now, if you cannot accept this logic, then just hold on to some truth from one John Podhoretz: “As a father of daughters, let me just say that I’ve paid enough in tuition to refer to myself as a father of daughters any damn time I want.
Originally published by The Daily Nerv – on October 15, 2017
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