Life has been made all the more fulfilling by the loving relationships that I have. When I write, I mostly discuss issues in relationship to my family, which is my wife and my son. I cannot begin to express how tough it was for me to live as a bachelor. Even over the 2 years that I dated my wife (including the 200-mile distance between us), it was very tough to live on my own and by myself. Although I partially am to blame for that loneliness (since my own family – parents and brothers – lived not even 15 minutes from me), it was tough not having Julia (then girlfriend, now wife) in my presence like she is today and has been the last five years.
You never really know how much you want and desire a person until you cannot have them day-in and day-out. My wife really is my world. I don’t mean that as to say that she is some kind of idol to me. I do not worship her in the same way that I worship God. But I do try to praise her for all that she means to me and what she has done and is doing for me.
I have come to realize though that if I ever lack being sincere in my love for her, then we will not be able to maintain such a strong bond. I must being genuine with her, I must be true with my son, and with every relationship, people should leave me feeling, or having a faith in me, that I am not faking a personality with them for whatever reason. People have helped make my life what it is; I should think that it would be beneficial to them and me if I returned the favor.
All relationships need sincerity if they are to be meaningful and lasting between two people. But I think that a husband and wife should fight for this kind of sincerity to keep things healthy in marriage – what I would probably call my ultimate relationship. I just hope to be a blessing to my wife and not a burden. For where there is a sincerity-fueled relationship, there will be a relationship and a marriage that is healthy.