Have you ever thought about what an apology does? What it does and what it says? Think about it. For the person saying the apology with a genuine heart, it says that this comes from a person who is willing to admit their wrong. For the person that receives the apology, it says that they have a forgiving spirit.
It is so important to have a heart that is equal parts forgiving and humble. Moreover, for an apology to be taken as genuine, the person who says the apology must have a genuine heart, for an apology cannot be real or lasting if it is not from a genuine heart.
If one deeply reflects on the apologies that they have given or accepted or heard, then they should come to the conclusion that on both sides of the apology, there stands persons that must be willing to denounce their own pride. Ego should have no place to sit at the table where an apology is being offered up as the main course or food for thought. Ego and pride shuts the door on communication, love, and relationship; humility and an understanding heart opens the door for those things listed above and much more.
I wish I could say that we all should think before we speak so there would be no need to have to give apologies, but that would be unrealistic. Most of us have said or will say things that we will regret upon further reflection. So, since that is the case for many flawed human beings, it is important to receive reminders from time to time about ridding ourselves of haughty attitudes, putting on a cloak of humility, or eating some “humble pie,” and asking for forgiveness for a wrong that we have committed. Trust me when I write that the other person will more than likely be grateful for your change of heart and kind words.
An apology goes a long way!
[Addendum: Here is an old post from my other blog site titled: “The Lack of Love in Our Arguments” –> http://watchyourtheology.blogspot.com/2014/12/the-lack-of-love-in-our-arguments.html]